Hi friends! Last time on Southern Etiquette we went over a few key maid of honor responsibilities. Check out the comment section — you guys had some great suggestions as to how a maid can not only fulfill her basic duties, but go above and beyond. Y’all are sweet!
This week I have a funny little question for you. It seems like such a small thing in the grand scheme of a wedding, but I’m wondering how you feel. It’s about clapping at the end of a wedding ceremony, as the recessional music swells and the bride and groom kiss, then trot back up the aisle in wedded bliss. Do you do it? Do you not do it?
Here’s what Emily Post has to say:
“Religious and secular ceremonies sometimes end with the guests clapping for the couple when the officiant introduces them to the guest assembly. The applause should be initiated by someone who knows the couple’s preference, and the guests should follow that lead. Otherwise, don’t clap.”
I’ve always wanted people to clap at the end of the ceremony. It seems so celebratory! Plus, it seems (to me) kind of awkward to do the big kiss in front of a silent room. Music and clapping to accompany the kiss? So much better! I guess this means I’ll be alerting my friends and family to my wishes. This being said, I would never start the clapping at a wedding where I wasn’t sure how the couple felt.
What do y’all think — do you want clapping at the end of your ceremony? Do you want just music? Are you planning to “seed the audience” to get the reaction you’re hoping for? Let me know!
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